They have no comprehension of the term “mail order bride” because
it was never a part of their culture or history. A “mail order
bride is more of a recent phenomena, starting in the mid 1800's,
steeped more in the cultures of North America rather than in Russia.
In this
article I will discuss how this notion of "mail order brides”
could reflect on your Russian wife.
With the advent
of the Internet, the world began to open up to all peoples with
many dating and singles web-sites spring up all over the net..
Because there is a shortage of men in Russia, Russian women have
turned to finding love and happiness with men of other countries
, for them Internet dating looked like an exciting way to find
love and happiness.
Unfortunately for most of these women, they learn the stigma of
the term “ Mail Order Bride” after finally arriving in the Western
world.
Most likely the biggest shock your Russian wife is going to get
is the negative connotation, “Mail Order Bride” has and how this
relates to her, personally.
I
know many Russian-western couples and each react differently to
the “mail order bride” labeling.
There are those lucky couples who have very supportive friends
and relatives where the “mail order bride” question has never
arisen. Yet there are many couples who live with the “mail order
bride” label as a stigma.
As a matter of fact, I personally know a couple, where the husband
is running a very successful business and absolutely forbids his
Russian wife from EVER telling anyone about the way they met (
Russian marriage agency). He taught her to answer that they met
by accident while they both were on vacation in Europe.
Why?
Because he believes that his business partners and his relatives
will not accept the fact that he met his wife though a “mail order
bride “ situation and the embarrassment would devastate him.
If so exposed, by trying to “save face“, he would deeply hurt
his wife, as she realizes that the method of their meeting could
be construed as shameful. As you might understand, this type of
situation would be very depressing and demoralizing for her.
If you are
interested in a Russian women, you need to think how she is going
to handle the situation when she discovers that the name “ mail
order bride”, was not only a part of early American history but
that ridiculous and insulting term is part of the 21 century and
most shockingly, part of HER OWN life!
PS:
During Halloween, in Seattle, Washington, A Wal-Mart's stocked
a new type of costume–the mail-order bride wedding dress, replete
with postage stamps and postmarks. “RETURN TO SENDER" written
towards top.
Funny…..
Funny ?